The Body Count: How many is too many?

The Body Count: How many is too many?

All funerals are sad and traumatic.  A friend of Zaydie’s died of heart failure at the age of 37.  Brenda was a beautiful woman who had a whole host of medical issues.  She was Irish and Filipino and had fire red hair.  The funeral was in Ossining and she was buried at Dale Cemetery.  Afterward, Zaydie and other friends of friends who knew Brenda all went to a bar on Main Street.

 

The friends included N.F., Lucky, Tim and Chunky (Zaydie and Bernice also).  Mookie wanted to go there because he ‘knew the bartender’.  Well of course upon arrival Mookie (a young semi-hip wanna be rapper and Brenda’s lover) asked the bartender who was on duty where ‘Janie’ was.  The bartender became hostile “How the fuck should I know…did you want something?” 

N.F. jumped in sliding Mookie right out of the way “Look ma’am we just got through burying our friend all we wanna do is drink and kind of let some stress go.”  The big brunette’s attitude changed faster than a traffic light, she got sweet, she was sympathetic and kind.  “Oh God, that’s awful…I’m Moe honey what can I get for y’all.”  N.F. said “Moe how many shots in that bottle of Jack?”

Moe’s eyes got big but she said “about 28-30 shots left in there”. N.F. asked, “Moe can I buy the rest of the bottle?” “Yeah sugar.” (she let it go for 90 bucks) N.F. got Moe to take our food order and we put together a couple of tables and got comfortable (Bernice was our designated driver, a tea sipping Christian freak).  After some small talk the subject got on the number of men who attended Brenda’s funeral.  Bernice said, “she must come from a big family.”

Zaydie threw back a shot and said, “family my hard firm ass, they were her lovers.” Bernice gagged on her soda as the rest of us burst out laughing, except Mookie who looked uncomfortable and got defensive.  Mookie said, “She hadn’t seen or been with many of those guys for years”.  Lucky and Tim laughed even harder, Tim trying to fight back tears from laughing asked for forgiveness as he tried to catch his breath.  N.F. said, “there had to be about 20 guys there, you gotta be kidding?”

Chunky (Bernice’s brother) said, “there was 27 of them not including the pall bearers. I know, I did the program for the service.” Mookie piped up now totally pissed as to the way the conversation was going, “we were close and she wasn’t doing it with any of those guys, it was just me and her for the last year and a half.”  Bernice turned bright red as she looked at Zaydie…Zaydie looked at Mookie and asked if he knew who Jason was. 

“Yeah, he was the X-ray technician at the hospital, he was always there…wait a minute, what the hell are you trying to tell me?”  Zaydie looked at Mookie like a pathetic, lowlife piece of shit, but even a lowlife piece of shit has feelings…Zaydie didn’t care, she likes making men cry.  “About 4 months ago you had to get treated for gonorrhea and Brenda made you feel like crap about giving it to her didn’t she?”  Mookie eyes bugged as his mouth gaped wide enough to see his gold crown work.

Zaydie continued as Chunky, Tim and Lucky sucked on their beers as the hot wings showed up at the table, “guess what Mookie, you didn’t give her the clap…she gave it to you, and she made you eat her nasty pussy knowing that!”  Beer shot out of three sets of nostrils all over the wings, N.F. laughed so hard tears flowed from his eyes, Chunky held Mookie and calmed him down. 

Mookie said to Zaydie “you don’t have to make her look like a whore?”

Zaydie, built like an Amazon godess with at least two martial arts awards and a second place 100 yard dash ribbon from a college competition stopped smiling and looked like she was ready to do something nasty and physical to Mookie.  I said, “Zaydie, we are all kind of raw and touchy right now, why get mad?”  “I’m not calling Brenda a ‘whore’ she is a woman who knew how to live, love and party” said Zaydie.

“I was proud of her, she knew how to get everything she wanted out of a man, and if that man didn’t have ‘it’ she knew where to go and find ‘it’.”  Zaydie said, “how is it when a woman has a lot of men, guys think she’s a whore but when a guy has a lot of women he’s a player, a wanna be Hugh Hefner.”  Lucky who just started to recover from laughing so hard said, Zaydie, “27 guys is too many.”

About that time Moe showed up with some burgers, more wings and other snacks and said, “for folks coming from a funeral you sure are taking it well.”  N.F. said, “Brenda would have wanted it that way.”  Zaydie picked up where Lucky left off, “who says 27 guys is too many…you?  Listen Lucky how many women did Wilt Chamberlain say he had, over 20,000 women in the course of his life and 23 women in a 10 day stretch, but he aint a whore is he, no he’s super nigger.”

Lucky said, “your point is made”.  Lucky then had everyone rise and make a toast to Brenda and the life she lived.  Poor Mookie looked like someone killed his best friend and then beat his dog.   I talked to Mookie for a few minutes alone and said, “look your love life with Brenda was very special and wonderful wasn’t it.”  

Mookie shook his head affirmatively as tears rolled down his face. 

I said to Mookie, “don’t get upset over the number of lovers ‘your woman’ had.  Would you have loved her any more or less if you did know?  I don’t think so Mookie because your upset for her, not you.  You saw Brenda for who she was in this life and she shared her best days with you.  Keep that and laugh at the rest…I think Brenda would.”

As we left and went our separate ways I wondered about my former relationships and my apparent loneliness.  Fear of hurting is all the excuse we need for sex, but sex without a real relationship is just one step above buying porn.  After taking Zaydie home I went to the park near the river in Tarrytown. 

Sometimes we don’t want anyone to hear the laughter or see the tears.

RJ

Porn: The untold effects of ‘Neuro-Subjugation’

Porn: The untold effects of  ‘Neuro- Subjugation’ aka Addiction

(fiction – although the citations and the sources are non-fiction)

“As I posted in a previous blog (Dirty Secret of Nasty Middle Aged Men) before much of a man’s dysfunction problems are psychological.”  My Doctor continued her inquiry as she finished the physical part of my examination.  I stressed about ‘function’ problems.  

As she removed the elbow length rubber gloves, the Doctor said,” stress, poor sleep and/or bad diet also contribute to a man’s mood, most men’s sex drive is determined by their self esteem…financial problems or poor relationship skills can also cause anxiety, anger and disassociation.”

I said, “Doctor, that’s the second time you brought up poor relationship skills” as I quickly pulled up my pants.  I asked “What are you getting at?”  I felt like I had been violated… (like a pervert got off on me) I had no idea a Doctor could stick a finger so far up in you.  

The Doctor asked me some more questions with a blank clinical look that could only be considered professional although the subject matter was about to get lewd and nasty. 

The Doctor prefaced her questions with the disclaimer; “If you do not feel comfortable answering some of my questions just say so…I will be glad to make a referral.”  I said, “OK, go ahead, ask anything.”  “How much time do you spend looking at porn?” “Not looking her in the eye (this woman Doctor was good looking and I stepped into a trap in a half when I said ask anything) I said “about an hour a week, why?”  The Doctor, noticing my discomfort did not let up.

“Recent studies at the University of Kansas and other institutions by noted authorities on sex have determined that exposure to pornography does effect a man’s sexual performance with his partner.  In cases where a man has no steady partner pornography is the underlying cause of failed relationships or even the abandoning of relationships” said the Doctor in a soft pity-filled voice.

  

“What are you getting at Doctor?”  I was not happy with the implications.  “You might want to see a psychiatrist to pursue the issue since physically, you are in very good shape.  

Clinical studies have determined prolonged and constant exposure to porn will affect the brain. 

If something is not working right it starts with your mind, not with your penis.”  So I considered what the Doctor said and saw a psychiatrist who had some very interesting things to say regarding my ‘function’. 

I should have kept this to myself and got more into reading academic works and other boring material.  But I shared this with a ‘friend’ who brought the very subject of porn up to me several times due to her ‘disdain’ at the level of ‘graphic material’ in the blog.  So I shared with Zaydie (an alias for a woman friend) what the Doctor said and she brought up everything I blogged about and called me a ‘hypocrite’ among other no so nice things and elaborated on the topic.

“Yeah RJ, I read the links you leave at the end of the blogs and found the Kerner article posted by Dr. Sanjay Gupta on CNN’s website.  Kerner blames the problem on thousands of internet porn sites most of which I bet you been on RJ, the articles also proves, quoting the article ‘that porn damages men’s physical and emotional interest in sex on a very fundamental neurological level.’” 

“You’re a mess, as is with most men, you look at women like freaks, like low-lifes made only ‘to get you off’…I can help you, but your attitude and your thinking better change.”  My attitude started to change immediately.  Fear does that.

“Look Zaydie, please don’t tell anyone about what the shrink said but I would appreciate your help.”  Zaydie looked at me like I was some sort of object (I got very nervous) then she said, “look RJ, when we go into the ‘workout phase’ you do everything I say or it will wreck our relationship and you better tell me everything your doing and not doing regarding porn…remember, the more you see of that porn crap the less you’ll see of me – got it!”  I said, “Understood, clearly understood.”

As the week passed I thought about other guys going through this very problem.  I took time to read other articles from academic medical journals, The Archives of Sexual Behavior and laboratory research.  I was really scared about the status of being as ‘masculine as I used to be’ because I am someone who is totally attracted to, and desire to be attractive to women.

Being absolutely turned on by even the smile of some women I thought about porn again when I read an article by By Davy Rothbart in New York Magazine titled “He’s Just Not That Into Anyone.”  I thought about the warnings by preachers and right wing nut jobs.

 

To quote the article, “For decades, hand-wringers have warned of a porn epidemic that would tear the nation’s moral fabric asunder. But if online porn has spread a sickness, it’s one that’s less like Ebola and more like a midwinter cold. The initial symptom for a lot of guys who frequently find themselves bookmarking their favorite illicit clips appears to be a waning desire for their partners.

Jonas*, a 34-year-old ad exec, told me, “I get on SpankWire or X Videos—you could carve ice sculptures with my dick. I take a girl home from the bar, though, and I’ll be up for a minute while she’s going down on me, but once I put a condom on and we start going at it, it’s like the Challenger exploded—all the flags are at half-mast.”

I thought about what my psychiatrist said I should do as ‘a therapeutic’ way to deal with the ‘mind warp’ that needed to be ‘straightened out’.  I thought about Lucky’s friend, and how he got into ‘therapy’, he went kind of nuts but is now very involved in Church.  He is also terminally pussy whipped but likes his life now.  I thought about this as Zaydie proceeded with our ‘session’. (Zaydie is a registered sex surrogate…and more)

  

When your wrists are bound to a rope secured to a 18^th century wood beam running the length of the hay loft in a feed barn and your wearing only a jockstrap, your incredibly vulnerable, your really only thinking of getting loose.

 You really become anxious until the sting of a whip or whatever she used causes you to gasp for air through the gag and then you hear, “LOOK AT ME…AND ONLY AT ME!  Then you realize Therapy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Contrition, be it psychological or spiritual is usually very painful.

RJ

http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2009/03/kink-whips-ballgags-and-sex-toys.html

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/

http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2011/12/dirty-secret-of-nasty-middle-aged-men.html

http://nymag.com/nymetro/nightlife/sex/columns/nakedcity/n_8542/, 

http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/05/06/the-mystery-behind-sex-surrogacy/

Sexual Fluidity: Loving & Lusting In and out of Gender

Sexual Fluidity: Who do you love?  The new sexual reality…or is it?

The Subject is Non-Fiction: Names changed to protect the author, the innocent and the suspect.

I had been going all day.  I thought I would visit a friend and Veteran of the Iraq War who I’d run into earlier this month at the Veterans Job Fair at the U.S ARMY NATIONAL GUARD RECRUITING OFFICE in Farmingdale, NY. 

Eddie, (her name is Edwina but everyone calls her ‘Eddie’) is a Sergeant First Class in the Army and she has a few side jobs, one as a bartender.  We decided to go to a ‘neutral’ location so we went to ‘Ollie’s Point Bar’ on the corner of Merrick Rd and Broadway in Amityville.

Even though the service at the bar was not the best on Long Island (but this place does have good bands and great events on occasion) we did have lunch there and a few drinks.  I talked about how we could never hook up and she talked about the reasons why.  

Eddie was in her camouflage utility uniform and absolutely beautiful, the Puerto Rican, Cuban and West Indian features along with fiery hazel eyes made her captivating.  “RJ, stop gazing at me and listen” so Eddie continued.

Eddie said, “I love who I love RJ, I love you but not in a sexual way” (code for I don’t want to touch you) I had to ask Eddie the obvious question knowing her past, “so who do you love now.”  

Eddie said, “you know how I am, I love who I love…EZ could never wrap his head around that when we grew up.  EZ was always worried about Leeta and dudes getting into her pants, but she was the first person I made love to.”

“Amazing Eddie how you were able to get around the UCMJ (Uniform Code of Military Justice) and thrive in an Army where women have been attacked, abused and raped by their own…how did you do that?” Eddie had wrapped her lips around a beer and gently swallowed before answering my inquiry.  

Eddie didn’t smile when she said, “men attack the weak or the ones that threaten them…I demonstrate strength by attacking first, be it a man or woman and leading by example.”

“Yeah, but EZ said that you had a thing for a young Colonel, a good looking ‘guy’ from Chicago who wanted you to quit the Army and marry him…which way you going Eddie?” “RJ, I already told you, I love who I love, it’s not about being a man or woman, it’s about who can turn me on with their personality their ‘chi’ the presence of their being, get that?”  “Yeah, it bugs me Leeta can turn you on but all you want me to be is your friend, Eddie.”

“RJ, you don’t get it because you don’t get ‘IT’…you are sweet, but way too serious and very conflicted because you want to do what’s right all the time, sometimes you gotta do what is just right for you…that means if it comes down to just letting loose and doing wild, naughty things then go with it…but you can’t or you won’t let go.  You let too much shit consume you.”

“Eddie, your half right about me, but what about you…what is it that flips your switch?” “RJ, it’s not all about sex or only about attraction but electricity and fun.  I like fun, I like excitement, I like to be in charge, I fight everything that depresses me and challenge everything that seeks to put me down, that’s me in short order.”  “Amazing Eddie! It’s oxymoronic that you are a leader in the Army!”

Eddie and I talked some more and I began to realize that her generation is different in many ways from earlier American generations as pertains to sexuality.  Women are not choosing their lovers, friends or sex partners based on gender but based on how a person makes them feel.  Eddie exposed a powerful revelation that seems to be lost in the fog of the culture war, the church vs. the secular republic (lesbians, homosexuals, transgender types and asexuals).

The revelation is that the American Woman or the first world woman is not chaining her belief systems to how she ‘should’ live according to society but how she chooses to live by finding souls in her world that brings her joy and happiness.  The new American Woman doesn’t want and will not tolerate a man, woman, government or church that tells her how she should live but wants a society that will tolerate how she chooses to be happy.

So of course, I decided to look into the matter just a little further.  Oh, by the way, Eddie is a first cousin of EZ and Leeta (see earlier blog post link below).  Back to the subject, how is it women are finding it unnecessary to be either lesbian or heterosexual?  


As I looked into the phenomenon I discovered that many media outlets have reported on it but somehow the topic gets drowned out by the headlines.

Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and best-selling author reporting for CNN wrote about this phenomenon called “sexual fluidity”.  In his article he noted how Cynthia Nixon caused a whole lot of controversy with the statement that she ‘chooses’ to be a lesbian.  To quote Nixon exactly; “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.”

   

Yeah, this kind of fuels the argument by the right-wingers and bible belt brimstone preachers that being homosexual is an absolute choice not a genetic certainty one is born with.  Kerner noted Dr. Lisa Diamond  was among the first to study this phenomenon, Dr. Diamond, a University of Utah psychology professor, has studied this extensively.

“In her 2008 book, ‘Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire,’ she (Dr. Diamond) writes that women’s sexuality appears to be much more fluid than men’s, and that this fluidity tends to involve three main characteristics:

– Non-exclusivity in attractions: can find either gender sexually attractive

– Changes in attractions: can suddenly find a man or woman sexually attractive after having been in a long-term relationship with the other

– Attraction to the person, not the gender

There are a lot of questions and observations that go with Dr. Diamonds study and many people ask these questions, like is sexual fluidity exclusive to women.


The basic answer is ‘yep’ men don’t or can’t flip back.  Once the ‘homo’ label is stuck on somebody for sex with another man or someone claim being a homosexual that’s it.  


Don’t believe me check out "Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms” authored by Emily Nagoski.

What Eddie (a woman) has brought me to realize is that real love or just plain lust is a powerful experience between personalities regardless of their gender.  Sexuality is expressed by folks who want to get off on each other because they turn each other on.

Does this mean the beginning of the end for the United States as currently configured?  Does this mean we will end up as Rome that did slide down this road of decadence, debauchery and hedonism?  I don’t know yet.  But if more men worked at being attractive to women, less women may seek out other women. 

Then again… freaks just may want to be freaky regardless…

What do you think?

RJ

Sources and Citations: 

http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2012/02/09/understanding-females-sexual-fluidity/?hpt=hp_bn10

http://www.goodinbed.com/ebooks/2010/04/female-orgasms/index.php

http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2011/07/leeta-be-sure-you-dont-have-it-too.html

http://www.billionwickedthoughts.com/index.html

Social Media Surveillance: Your Being Watched!

Social Media Surveillance: Your Being Watched!


Non-Fiction/Editorial

It started with fear.  Fear of the government becoming too powerful and telling us who we can and cannot own; government only giving three votes (before the Civil War slave states got representation in congress for slaves owned in their state) for every five slaves.  Then the real fear …negro citizenship, god only knows what that could lead to.  That fear led to the American Civil War.

Over the years fear would be used as a tool of ‘reason’ to start the Spanish American War after the sinking of the ‘Maine’ in Havana Harbor.  Fear would be used as an excuse to fight with the British and French in World War I.  Fear based on race would be a catalyst for stoking the fires of vengeance in the soul of every American during the start of World War II.  Fear would lead to the travesty of Japanese interment.

Fears of asymmetric attack against the United States by terror groups, radicals and other enemies of the United States made Congress give the President unreal power in the surveillance of all ‘citizens and suspects’ that may endanger or seek to damage the United States of America (The Patriot Act).  A noble intent to be sure, but the road to hell (or another form of unlawful American internment) is paved with good intent.

The Department of Homeland Security which channels it’s power through the executive branch (The President) has now announced its surveillance of Social Media of all kinds including Twitter, Facebook, and blogs of all kinds including the Huffington Post and other lesser known blogs that the Department of Homeland Security deem as ‘a threat’.

This week your impotent, hate-filled, hopelessly divided, do nothing Congress is holding hearings on what exactly the Department of Homeland Security is putting under ‘surveillance’ and listening to newly concocted but thoroughly insidious reasons to spy on or ‘watch’ citizens who speak out against the Department of Homeland Security or the government of the United States.

This is just a little bit more than the old time commie witch hunts held by Senator McCarthy and Vice President Richard Nixon back in the 50’s.  This is the wholesale bastardization of American Civil Liberties under the ‘disguise’ of national security.  The Gestapo was the enforcement arm of such a ‘national security act’ for German National Socialists before and during World War II.  We know from history what this did for Germany.  It is my opinion that we don’t need this.

More to the point, Graeme McMillan in an article for Time Magazine titled, “Big Brother Is Watching: Document Reveals Surveillance of Social Media, Blogs, Image-Sharing Sites” writes, “The ‘privacy compliance review’ obtained by Reuters comes from last November, but apparently this surveillance has been ongoing since at least June 2010.

According to the document, it’s designed to ‘collect information used in providing situational awareness and establishing a common operating picture’ with ‘data published via social media sites [used] solely to provide more accurate situational awareness, a more complete common operating pictures, and more timely information for decision makers.’ In other words, the DHS is using the Internet to find out what’s happening, same as everyone else, but it certainly sounds more disturbing.”

All kinds of blogs are being monitored including the New York Times, The Huffington Post, The Drudge Report, Threat Level and Danger Room.  So be very careful about what you say and do on Facebook, Twitter or blogs because you could be the guinea pig the government uses to put the First Amendment of the Constitution in the shredder.  Yeah, I know, see how fear works?

What you need to do is what you did when the Government was attempting to censor the internet, call your useless Congressman, Congresswoman, and/or Senator to let them know how you feel about being spied on.  

And ‘no’; the new rules and regulations put out by Google and Facebook don’t protect your privacy from the government, or from other Social Media Surveillance companies either.

Fear is a disease that will rip apart this republic faster than any foreign army, any outlet of terror, or avowed enemy of the United States could ever hope to do in a million lifetimes.  So you need to make some decisions.  Your life as you know it today and hopes for what it will be in the future depend on you either submitting to being a subject of fear or the fearless citizen subjugating your government to the will of the people and the Constitution of the United States.

I leave you with some words from men who have dealt with the issue:  “If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.”

Albert Einstein

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.

Gandhi

RJ

Sources and Citations:

Read more: http://techland.time.com/2012/01/12/big-brother-is-watching-document-reveals-surveillance-of-social-media-blogs-image-sharing-sites/#ixzz1maUnPhoJ

http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/01/11/us-usa-homelandsecurity-websites-idUSTRE80A1RC20120111

http://techland.time.com/2011/11/07/number-of-the-day-5000000/


http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2012/01/new-censorship-and-your-congressperson.html

Whitney Houston: Another Talent Is Gone

Whitney Houston: Another Talent Is Gone
Non-Fiction - News

I’m not going to talk about Whitney’s drug addiction, her screwed up life after marrying the low-life Bobby Brown or her failed attempts at a comeback.  I will not talk about her awards, her appearances or her place in the American tapestry of artist with her stirring rendition of the Star Spangled Banner in the days before Desert Storm 1.   

I will talk about how a good woman lost faith in herself, her ability and her support system, her family.

No blame is to be placed on anyone…everyone failed.  When a soul has no hope the only power one has left is to end their existence.  (With or without intent) We can all ask the stupid questions:  Where was God?  Where was the Church?  Where was the State?  Where were her Friends?  Where was her family?  

We will all die alone.  It is failure of monumental proportions when someone who has fame and resources even when money was gone could not get help or even worse gave up on getting help.

No matter what we go through in life we must help each other.  Sometimes the plea for help is disguised as a rambling phone call or a request for ‘technical assistance’.  We all must learn how to read the signs of desperation, despair and depression.  If we don’t help each other we will surely perish too soon and many who really do love us will suffer and hurt.

Jimi Hendrix wrote these words in a song: “Will the wind ever remember,

The names it has blown in the past

And with his crutch,

it’s old age, and it's wisdom,

It whispers no, this will be the last

And the wind cries Mary…”

As long as we play Whitney’s music she will live forever in the moods evoked by her songs.


I have updated this post with what is my favorite Whitney Houston performance.  I hope you enjoy this.

RJ


Citation: http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2012/01/are-we-going-crazy-mental-illness.html

Do You Really Need a Reason Why?

Informational-Non Fiction

During the Superbowl I heard a female patron of the bar and grill I was in say to her young boyfriend at halftime “If the Giants win you can fuck me” the other end of that bet was if the Patriots won he had to buy her some really nice jewelry.  I thought about this and it wasn’t really a bet at all. 

If he was her man, then he would eventually get some back action anyway.

I gave this some very serious thought between writing letters to my government representatives and sitting with lawyers regarding the disposition of my life.  I took a hard look at the late night bar scene along with the ‘just go to church and work crowd’ to find out what the real difference is: is there a sweet altruistic way to virtuously have a committed sex partner or just have a sex partner without any real commitment?  What is the acceptable social way to pursue sex?

Some of us have come to the realization (forgive the pun) that it really doesn’t matter what society thinks as long as you live in America.  

Bible belt, born again, lying, cheating, crooked Christian hypocrites are always telling people how to live even though most divorces, unwed mothers, and deadbeat dads are in the bible belt.  But so called ‘liberals’ want people to accept what is totally taboo in the face of traditional societal norms essentially bastardizing social institutions.

In other words assorted deviates would like to redefine marriage, redefine family, redefine love and redefine ‘right’.  No matter where you are on whatever issue, it boils down to looking for justification on how you choose to find grounds to fuck or get off without being judged, prejudged, scandalized or condemned.  But then again, it begs the question; do you really need a reason to have sex, any kind of sex, anyway you want it?

I did some looking around on and offline and found out that a psychiatrist, Dr. John Grohol did a study on the subject of the reasons why people have sex.  Actually, this is an age old question dealt with by every philosopher from before Socrates to every ‘Doctor’ after Masters and Johnson.

 

Every major religion has issued its own rules for sex and sexual pursuit, from the prudish Judeo-Christian warnings of the Bible, to the humanist realism of Hinduism and the teachings of the Rig Veda and the instructions of the Kama Sutra.  No matter what rules you personally subscribe to it doesn’t stop the ongoing rationalization for men and women to do what they want to do with each other.

Dr. Grohol’s study has led to a list of 237 reasons to have sex.  (I know, only 237?)  So for the sake of science, society, custom and culture, I will list some of the 237 reasons why to have sex (if Paul Simon knew this info would he have sung about more than ’50 Ways to Leave Your Lover’); So here we go:

214. I felt jealous.

215. The person flattered me.

216. I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.

217. The person had a desirable body.

218. I had not had sex in a long time.

219. The person smelled nice.

220. The person had an attractive face.

221. I saw the person naked and could not resist.

222. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.

223. The person was intelligent.

224. The person caressed me.

225. The person wore revealing clothes.

226. The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of them.

227. I knew the person was usually ‘‘out of my league.’’

228. The person was mysterious.

229. I realized I was in love.

230. I wanted to forget about my problems.

231. I wanted to reproduce.

232. I wanted to feel loved.

233. I wanted my partner to notice me.

234. I wanted to help my partner forget about their problems.

235. I wanted to lift my partner’s spirits.

236. I wanted to submit to my partner.

237. I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.

(From 237 Reasons to Have Sex by Dr. John Grohol)

For whatever reason you choose to do it, or how to do it, is totally your pursuit, your problem, your delight.  This is the whole dilemma and the partial wonder of being a human being.  The need for sex spans the chasm from the need to procreate to the desire to just ‘get off’.  So, if you haven’t already, find your reason why.  You really don’t have to justify it…your human.

Just don’t forget the consequences.

RJ

Noted Articles and Citations:

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2007/08/01/237-reasons-to-have-sex/

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/31/science/31tier.html?ref=sex

Don Cornelius: The Arch MC of Love, Peace and Soul

Don Cornelius is dead from a self inflicted gunshot to the head.  He was 75 years old.  Don Cornelius had a long list of medical problems and constant pain. 

Divorce, a stroke and a condition requiring brain surgery plagued Cornelius. He saw one way out. 

Yes this death is sad, but it’s not the whole story.

Los Angeles County Jail is a place of factions between groups, it is now and it was back in the 80’s.  As a young Deputy working Custody Division ‘off the street’ one Saturday in a General population dorm, I saw something absolutely mind boggling to me.  

‘La Eme’ members, Crips, Bloods, 18^th Street and assorted other thugs all stopped trying to scam, fight and kill each other to watch Soul Train.

Soul Train has crossed over not only in American culture bringing a ‘black’ and a ‘white’ America closer and stitching together many of the open wounds of the Civil Rights Era, but it is in syndication World Wide, in fact Soul Train is the longest running TV show in broadcasting history.  Don Cornelius started Soul Train with $400 dollars, a few nice suits and a vision.

It was Don Cornelius who made ‘Soul Music’ a world-wide music genre.  After Don Cornelius’ Soul Train went national, Soul Music was not just a black medium for black artists.  It was Don Cornelius who introduced ‘Blue-Eyed’ Soul artists on Soul Train starting in 1975.

 

The list of non-black performers include but is not limited to: Gino Vannelli, Elton John, Average White Band, Frankie Valli, Teena Marie, Yellow Magic Orchestra, Michael McDonald, The Manhattan Transfer, The Romantics, Sheena Easton, Don Henley, Spandau Ballet, Beastie Boys, Paula Abdul, Michael Bolton and Christine Aguilera to name a few.  Don Cornelius also had dancers discovered on the Soul Train line that became famous including Rosie Perez.

Soul Train had a run of 35 years on TV before it went into syndication.  No TV show in America or Internationally has had a run like that.  Even DJ’s and Comedians made an appearance on Soul Train including Rick Dees and Richard Pryor.  Don Cornelius got his Star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in 1997.  Don Cornelius is a Veteran of the Korean War.

“NewsOne's Don Charnas remembered. Once, James Brown -- then the biggest name in soul music -- wondered how Cornelius would succeed.

"Who's backing you on this?" he asked Cornelius repeatedly.

"It's just me, James," Cornelius answered.”

As the Righteous Brothers, Bill Medley and Bobby Hatfield put it;

 “If you believe in forever

Then life is just a one-night stand

If there's a rock and roll heaven

Well you know they've got a hell of a band, band, band”

Now the zealots and the hypocrites with their pseudo-religion and judgment can kiss my ass if attempting to assign anyone a place in the afterlife, but Don Cornelius is now MC of the greatest after life line up of entertainers that have passed from time into eternity.  

Imagine Don Cornelius introducing Michael Jackson and Elvis Presley on the same stage with Janis Joplin, Amy Winehouse and Etta James.

To All Who Read This Tribute, in the words of Don Cornelius, “and as always in parting, we wish you love, peace... and SOUL!"

RJ

Citations and Sources

http://www.cnn.com/2012/02/01/showbiz/celebrity-news-gossip/don-cornelius-impact/index.html?hpt=hp_c2

http://straightfromthea.com/2012/02/01/soul-train-creator-don-corneilus-dead-of-apparent-suicide/

http://soultrain.com/

http://thehappeningz.blogspot.com/2012/01/are-we-going-crazy-mental-illness.html

Rumors: Half Truths and Undisclosed Tales

Rumors – Non Fiction

With all the hoopla over the Superbowl and the ongoing distraction of the Clown Corrupt Con-Artist Conservative Roadshow aka the Republican Presidential Primary we lose sight of what is really going on.   

There are things taking place that are either rarely reported or downright criminal.  Since the elite media (like networks that begin with ‘F’ and end with ‘X’) only report seriously dangerous threats to the United States and its citizenry, this blog will cover some news not covered in the name of social preservation and national pride (believe the bullshit).

First off, with all the non-substantiated propaganda relating to President Obama (closet muslim, black radical, Kenyan Witch Doctor, Indonesian communist, etc.) and believe me, it was all going to be true according to the Fox Network until that network distanced themselves from Glenn Beck who of course got fired for making up history.  (At least it wasn’t plagiarism!)

This blog now reports the real news about President Obama that has been all but silenced in the press.  Alfred Lambremont Webre, JD, Med, reported in ‘EXOPOLITICS: Politics, Government, and Law in the Universe’ that CIA whistleblowers Andrew D. Basiago and William Stillings (formerly with DARPA- Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency) “have confirmed that U.S. President Barack H. Obama was enrolled in their Mars training class in 1980 and was among the young Americans from the program who they later encountered on the Martian surface after reaching Mars via ‘jump room.’” (OH YEAH…OBAMA WAS ON MARS)

Before you stop reading this entry and accuse me of drinking too much Jack (you can never drink too much Jack) the sources for this information will be noted at the end of this blog entry but I will note some of them right now: Command Sgt. Major Robert Dean at the European Exopolitics Summit  in Barcelona, Spain in 2009, Wired Magazine and NBC News.

According to EXOPOLOTICS Obama was engaged in a ‘teleportation’ project setup by DARPA in the early 1980’s.  

This project had 10 teenagers in college at Occidental near the town of Eagle Rock in California who were prepared at a Seminar for Martian travel at The College of the Siskiyous , a small college near Mt. Shasta in California. 

EXOPOLOTICS mentioned also in the Mars project with Barry Obama and other teen age ‘chrononauts’ in the 1980's was Regina Dugan who is now the current head of DARPA.

Seven of the parents of the 10 teens also audited the course and some did participate in the teleportation.  According to EXOPOLOTICS among the parents were “Raymond F. Basiago, an engineer for The Ralph M. Parsons Company (Nuclear Reactors/Nuclear Logistics) who was the chief technical liaison between Parsons and the CIA on Tesla-based teleportation; Thomas Stillings, an operations analyst for the Lockheed Corporation who had served with the Office of Naval Intelligence; and Mr. Obama’s mother, Stanley Ann Dunham, who carried out assignments for the CIA in Kenya and Indonesia.

From 1981 to 1983, the young attendees then went on to teleport to Mars via a “jump room” located in a building occupied by Hughes Aircraft at 999 N. Sepulveda Boulevard in El Segundo, California, adjacent to the Los Angeles International Airport (LAX).”  

According to both Basiago and Stillings, Barry Obama went to Mars twice.  Though these men have talked thoroughly about the facilities on Mars and those in the program they are real sketchy on whom Obama talked to or worked with on Mars.  They did not confirm or deny Obama was in contact with Martians.

According to Basiago the CIA did provide him (Basiago) with a weapon while he was on Mars given the ‘primitive conditions and the risks’.  According to EXOPOLOTICS, Basiago and Stillings said their mission boiled down to “establishing a legal basis for the U.S. to assert a claim of territorial sovereignty over Mars and to acclimate Martian humanoids and animals to their presence or, as Major Dames stated during their training near Mt. Shasta in 1980: “Simply put, your task is to be seen and not eaten.”

If Basiago and Stillings are to be believed (why the fuck not, a bunch of toothless hate filled, tea partyers believe he’s a muslim witchdoctor, why not believe Obama is a ‘chrononaut’ that is Time Traveler).  This begs the question was Obama the ‘Martian Candidate’ and is he now acting under Martian influence to effect the foundations for the coming of the ‘NEW INTRA-GALACTIC ORDER’?  Or is he just properly affecting the NEW WORLD ORDER?

Of course the White House denies that President Obama has ever been to Mars.  Do You Trust The White House?

Stay Tuned

RJ

Cited Works & Articles

Cited Articles and Sources

http://exopolitics.blogs.com/exopolitics/2011/11/mars-visitors-basiago-and-stillings-confirm-barack-obama-traveled-to-mars-1.html

http://www.wired.com/dangerroom/2012/01/obama-mars/

http://dinamars.hubpages.com/hub/barrack-obama-indonesia

http://www.geekosystem.com/mars-obama-conspiracy/

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45878146/ns/technology_and_science-space/t/conspiracy-theory-obama-went-mars-teen/

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45878146/ns/technology_and_science-space/t/conspiracy-theory-obama-went-mars-teen/#.TyjoGsVWoTY

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/01/04/white-house-denies-president-obama-travelled-to-mars_n_1183069.html