Debauchery and Deviate Pursuits
Now, I know that out there somewhere, reading this is someone sitting on their high and mighty moral throne ready to denounce this post, its author and throw religion and morality into the discussion because you have a submissive wife or husband who tolerates a small phallic appendage or is resigned to sex as a duty. I got something for you to think about.
Many mainstream ministers as well as small church ministers and priests have been caught in all kinds of bizarre sexual behavior because they will not address the sexual drought in their own relationships. Let me run down a list for you; Ted Haggard, Jimmy Swaggart, Rev. Henry J. Lyons (former President of the National Baptist Convention), The Rev. L. Kenneth Fellenbaum, Joe Barron (Texas Preacher who solicited a child), Chris Brain (Vicar, Church of England) and Royden Wood (sexually assaulted members).
This list could go on and on. But the point is in the bar, pub, club world there are avenues to explore to get your ‘kink’ on without being stupid or putting yourself at risk. This goes for men and women. So let loose, but don’t make yourself a poster child for the CDC. Definitely don’t do anything illegal in your State (discretion, discretion, discretion).
The Marquis De Sade, J. Edgar Hoover, Napolean Bonaparte, and King Herod I, all got their kicks through ‘kink’. In the words of a song by B.T. Express, “Do It Till Your Satisfied”. (If you have concerns check with the sex police in your State)
O.K., we dealt with the PG version of the ‘kinkonomics’ revolution, now lets deal with the adult version. Stuff you won’t see on CNN, MSNBC, or FOX. Why deal with these issues? These issues are part and parcel of the bar scene and a new kind of social phenomenon taking place in a post-industrial, 21st Century world. We are dealing with a society attempting to un-alienate itself from both desire and aloneness.
Desire is the offshoot of unfulfilled realizations born from the pursuit of both a ‘normal’ life and ‘fulfilling dreams’. I should say ‘pursuing happiness’, many of us pursue people, relationships, goals and challenges. When the things that we choose to effect in life won’t pan out the way we want there is a ‘self evaluation’ that goes on inside the head and heart. What the ‘affect’ of that evaluation leads to is either crisis or calm.
Mid-life crisis, self-realization, or self-re-creation, we find ourselves in a new kind of community, a different world than we lived in during the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s or pre 911. The changes in our own society have been constant and subtle. The reality is how we choose to live with these changes in our world, which inevitably lead to changes in ourselves. It is the ‘change’ that we deal with in this very adult discourse.
Why is it that men (and some women) want to be humiliated, humbled or even broken by a Domme? It’s not natural for any male to go without sex for more than 90 days at any one time. What Domme’s offer is both the shame and humiliation of being a dating failure with a number of degrading and mortifying options that have a physical, psychological and amoral dimension that has found its appeal in the abilities of the ProDomme on a willing subject.
If a guy, (or gal) why be a subject? Or, why should any woman consider being a ‘domme’? To quote Tracy Quan from her article “Kinkonomics” she says, “Though dominatrix work is considered by many to be the hardest in the sex industry, being able to avoid actual intercourse is key to its appeal to “everyday” women who are just looking to pick up a little extra money.
…a pro-domme in her late twenties, apprenticed at a dungeon before striking out on her own…in Manhattan dungeons….the typical cut on a $200 session is 60-40 in the dungeon’s favor. To people who make their entire living in the sex industry—professional escorts who get $500 an hour, for instance—such rates can seem abusive. But freelancers see it differently. ‘If you’re making $8 an hour at your day job, $80 is awesome.’ …There’s no shortage of women willing to work at those rates.”
Older males, in their late 50’s to early 70’s make great candidates for a ‘domme’. As men get older they’re testosterone levels shrink. This means that many men can’t shoot (ejaculate) more than once a day sometimes only three times a week.[1] This lack of testosterone can mean a lot of frustration, anger and can even lead to depression, which only aggravates the single shot penis problem.
So men (or women), looking for an alternative to the aggravation or even the humiliation of picking up something in the bar can generally find that alternative. According to Tracy Quan, (I believe she said in one of her books she has had sex industry experience) “at $200 an hour, a piquant visit to a Manhattan dungeon for a spanking administered by a good-looking girl with a liberal arts degree is easier on a guy’s wallet than the “girlfriend experience” offered by many an Internet courtesan.
If a pro-domme permits him to “satisfy himself,” the end result may be similar enough to what he would get from an escort—and less expensive. Men who pay for kink aren’t all diehard fetishists or submissives—a spanking isn’t essential to their personal happiness. It may be an occasional side thrill.
Clients are middle-management types, small-business owners, dentists, young lawyers, even a few single males who see themselves as casualties of the gig economy. A fence-sitter—flirting with, not truly committed to kink—might discover that the antidote to a recession resides in the nearest S&M parlor”
This writer is in no way saying you should go to an S&M parlor. What we all should be considering is new ways to satisfy a natural pursuit. If your in a relationship that is dry, complacent, predictable and only lasts about five minuets, you may want to spice up your love life. If your not in any relationship at all and your tired of ‘beating your dick like it owes you money’, looking into ways to do that can’t be all bad.
Desire is the offshoot of unfulfilled realizations born from the pursuit of both a ‘normal’ life and ‘fulfilling dreams’. I should say ‘pursuing happiness’, many of us pursue people, relationships, goals and challenges. When the things that we choose to effect in life won’t pan out the way we want there is a ‘self evaluation’ that goes on inside the head and heart. What the ‘affect’ of that evaluation leads to is either crisis or calm.
Mid-life crisis, self-realization, or self-re-creation, we find ourselves in a new kind of community, a different world than we lived in during the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s or pre 911. The changes in our own society have been constant and subtle. The reality is how we choose to live with these changes in our world, which inevitably lead to changes in ourselves. It is the ‘change’ that we deal with in this very adult discourse.
Why is it that men (and some women) want to be humiliated, humbled or even broken by a Domme? It’s not natural for any male to go without sex for more than 90 days at any one time. What Domme’s offer is both the shame and humiliation of being a dating failure with a number of degrading and mortifying options that have a physical, psychological and amoral dimension that has found its appeal in the abilities of the ProDomme on a willing subject.
If a guy, (or gal) why be a subject? Or, why should any woman consider being a ‘domme’? To quote Tracy Quan from her article “Kinkonomics” she says, “Though dominatrix work is considered by many to be the hardest in the sex industry, being able to avoid actual intercourse is key to its appeal to “everyday” women who are just looking to pick up a little extra money.
…a pro-domme in her late twenties, apprenticed at a dungeon before striking out on her own…in Manhattan dungeons….the typical cut on a $200 session is 60-40 in the dungeon’s favor. To people who make their entire living in the sex industry—professional escorts who get $500 an hour, for instance—such rates can seem abusive. But freelancers see it differently. ‘If you’re making $8 an hour at your day job, $80 is awesome.’ …There’s no shortage of women willing to work at those rates.”
Older males, in their late 50’s to early 70’s make great candidates for a ‘domme’. As men get older they’re testosterone levels shrink. This means that many men can’t shoot (ejaculate) more than once a day sometimes only three times a week.[1] This lack of testosterone can mean a lot of frustration, anger and can even lead to depression, which only aggravates the single shot penis problem.
So men (or women), looking for an alternative to the aggravation or even the humiliation of picking up something in the bar can generally find that alternative. According to Tracy Quan, (I believe she said in one of her books she has had sex industry experience) “at $200 an hour, a piquant visit to a Manhattan dungeon for a spanking administered by a good-looking girl with a liberal arts degree is easier on a guy’s wallet than the “girlfriend experience” offered by many an Internet courtesan.
If a pro-domme permits him to “satisfy himself,” the end result may be similar enough to what he would get from an escort—and less expensive. Men who pay for kink aren’t all diehard fetishists or submissives—a spanking isn’t essential to their personal happiness. It may be an occasional side thrill.
Clients are middle-management types, small-business owners, dentists, young lawyers, even a few single males who see themselves as casualties of the gig economy. A fence-sitter—flirting with, not truly committed to kink—might discover that the antidote to a recession resides in the nearest S&M parlor”
This writer is in no way saying you should go to an S&M parlor. What we all should be considering is new ways to satisfy a natural pursuit. If your in a relationship that is dry, complacent, predictable and only lasts about five minuets, you may want to spice up your love life. If your not in any relationship at all and your tired of ‘beating your dick like it owes you money’, looking into ways to do that can’t be all bad.
Now, I know that out there somewhere, reading this is someone sitting on their high and mighty moral throne ready to denounce this post, its author and throw religion and morality into the discussion because you have a submissive wife or husband who tolerates a small phallic appendage or is resigned to sex as a duty. I got something for you to think about.
Many mainstream ministers as well as small church ministers and priests have been caught in all kinds of bizarre sexual behavior because they will not address the sexual drought in their own relationships. Let me run down a list for you; Ted Haggard, Jimmy Swaggart, Rev. Henry J. Lyons (former President of the National Baptist Convention), The Rev. L. Kenneth Fellenbaum, Joe Barron (Texas Preacher who solicited a child), Chris Brain (Vicar, Church of England) and Royden Wood (sexually assaulted members).
This list could go on and on. But the point is in the bar, pub, club world there are avenues to explore to get your ‘kink’ on without being stupid or putting yourself at risk. This goes for men and women. So let loose, but don’t make yourself a poster child for the CDC. Definitely don’t do anything illegal in your State (discretion, discretion, discretion).
The Marquis De Sade, J. Edgar Hoover, Napolean Bonaparte, and King Herod I, all got their kicks through ‘kink’. In the words of a song by B.T. Express, “Do It Till Your Satisfied”. (If you have concerns check with the sex police in your State)
RJ
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