Fat Women and the Men who want them

It was a very cloudy Tuesday Afternoon when Candy called me to see if I had got done with a business meeting in Selden.  

I was going to drive back to Queens and stay at my Aunt’s house before going upstate.  “Your always going and you don’t stop unless sickness or a cash crunch stops you” said Candy as she proceeded to condemn me.

So I asked, “so what do you want to do?”  Candy said “let’s get something to eat” so I met her at Texas Roadhouse in East Meadow.  As we were waiting it was amazing to see the number of very obese people in the restaurant to get those cheap but tasty dinner specials. 

Candy noted as we were seated ‘in a booth, in the back, in the corner, in the dark’ (quote from Flip Wilson that fits) the number of ‘big women’ with skinny men.  The men were from two primarily American race groups, Caucasian males and Black males.

As we both ordered the dinner special noticing that the pencil thin waitress was pushing bigger plates of food and bigger drinks we settled on a very balanced and moderate dinner, alcohol was a different subject.  But the number of big women, skinny men couples were escalating as the evening went on.

Candy said, “it’s amazing the number of ‘chubby chasers’ that there are among men, it seems lots of guys want more than their food and their beer supersized.”  I had to note my point of view saying “it’s the media that is selling the ‘Barbie doll’ figure and it’s only really well off guys and homo’s that seem to gravitate to women who look like a pencil with big tits and a bulb-like ass.”

  

Candy said “now you’re being sociocentric RJ.  There are rich chubby chasers too.”  “Candy I never see a rich guy in public with a chubby woman, either she looks like Barbie or she is a highly modified MILF, who justifies her plastic surgery by saying ‘look at Joan Rivers’.”  “So you’re saying it’s all about perception and money, aren’t you RJ?”

“No Candy, I’m not...not exclusively.  Men in the 40’s and 50’s loved buxom, full figured women like Marilyn Monroe, Gina Lollobrigida and Jane Russell.  Now the media force feeds us the image of Barbie with these terribly emaciated teenage waifs posing as sex symbols.  I’m just saying real guys like a woman with a little meat on them, but its extreme to me to want to a woman who looks like the Michellin man in fishnet stockings”

Candy now was fishing to level a charge, she said “so a real guy doesn’t want a fat woman is that what you’re saying RJ?”  “Hey, this aint about me, this is about guys who want it big fat and jiggly.” “So do guys who date or have big women, have a fetish or do they really love the person they are with RJ?”

“Why pose this question to me?  Do skinny women like fat guys because they have a daddy complex or a fetish, or is it because they’re easy marks to drain cash out of?  

That question can also be put the other way around, do guys date fat women (not big women) because they see an easy sex opportunity born out of some kind of ‘mommy’ fetish or does a guy see a bitch he can use for cash?

Candy and I ended our discussion in the parking lot.  But I got to thinking about this topic knowing full well I did touch on it in the past.  But I know I never blogged about the motivations for guys wanting to have sex with fat women (not to be confused with big women). So I decided to check out the discussion in forums across the World.

Well, at least I’ll deal with some major points from verifiable sources so I’m not accused of making this up.  The whole conversation boils down to this; is Chubby Chasing a fetish or a preference?  Recently MTV did a show on the subject and aired a new episode of their hit documentary series called True Life: I’m A Chubby Chaser.

Danielle Pointdujour, in an article for ‘Frugivore Magazine’ writes about the episode which follows two men, Justin who is gay and Tee, as they live their lives loving their bigger mates. (http://frugivoremag.com/2012/01/chubby-chasing-is-it-a-fetish-or-preference/)

In her article she notes, “If you look up the definition of fetish the consensus is that a sexual fetish may be regarded as an enhancing element to a romantic/sexual relationship achieved in ordinary ways like having the partner wear a particular garment or getting tied up. By that definition being a chubby chaser isn’t a fetish; it’s more of a preference.”

Now the fact that one of these guys is ‘gay’ puts a whole different spin on Chubby Chasing.  In my observation this is a form of ‘sex sport’ or fetish entertainment only for one purpose, that is to get off.    Some people would argue that some guys go after fat women because the guy himself has a poor ego or bad self esteem.

Now I do note that there is a difference between fat women and big women. There are women who are not grossly obese who are tall and muscular.  The women sought by Chubby Chasers are clearly very obese.  But what do you think?

Is Chubby Chasing a fetish or preference?  Are fat women easier to get and easier to keep than pretty girls? 

I dare you to say something!

RJ